Well, well… I was starting to wonder if anyone actually read these. Lo and behold! FAN LETTER! A very dear follower of my blog (whom I found out keeps a shortcut here ON his desktop) was talking to me about online chatting. Now, I know that everyone wants to read an awesome story or blurb from my life, but a few things need to be put out there. This, my adoring fans, is a compilation of opinions, unwritten rules, and common sense that I like to call “Scamp’s Guide to Internet Etiquette; Fetish Chat Room Edition”.
I will be explaining all of this from the point of view that I am familiar with (gay male to gay male), but these rules apply for pretty much any orientation and gender that use a fetish chat room (or any other chat room, for the most part).
One of the biggest things that one will see in a chat room of any kind is caps locking. In a text based conversation, SPEAKING WITH ALL CAPITAL LETTERS IS TANTAMOUNT TO SHOUTING. It can be a useful tool when you need to convey that you would be putting emphasis on the words you use in a conversation, but it’s not an “all the time” style of typing. It has been posed to me by someone who uses caps locking quite often that “caps lock is the only way to let people know that what you are saying is important.” Nobody is THAT important. I know you think you are cool. I know that caps lock is like cruise control for cool. Here’s a protip for you... Even with cruise control, you still have to steer.
This part applies to fetish chat rooms more specifically. To narrow it down, it is most common in the Dominate and submissive chats. In Dominate and submissive chats, submissive men try to seek out the Dominate men that they feel an ingrown need to control aspects of their lives. This can range from semi-sub boys all the way down to slaves who consider themselves property and nothing else. It is all well and good if the submissive is interested in the Dominate. But what is very common to find is people who try to place themselves in the role of a Dominate, expecting those around them to give them instant respect because their screen name contains the words “MASTER”, “DOM”, “LORD, or any other in a wide array of “privileged titles”. Just because you consider yourself a Dominate does not mean that everyone else has to lick your feet for the privilege to talk to you. There are many out there who have earned respect. Many who have earned their title. Many who have earned the privilege. This behavior is furthered by the submissives who don’t know what they want. Or the “subs” who just want to get off while a stranger talks down to them. They feed the proverbial “trolls” of the screen name title abusers.
Another trend spreading like wildfire through internet fetish chat rooms (and many other types of chat rooms) is that many people ignore the “meat and potatoes” of a quality person for the flashy, smoke and mirrors of the “fajita” attractive and innocent acting younger chatters. What happens quite often is that a person can be having a decent conversation with someone of similar interests. This conversation can range between anything from weather to actual connection which could lead to meeting up and exploring your various kinks. Suddenly, a beautiful woman walks in from the rain, begging the private detective to help find her missing father. No? Oh sorry. In a similar chain of events, a (usually) younger and more attractive person comes into the chat room and all interest in the meat and potatoes is lost in favor of the fajita that just sizzled past your table. This is an insult to the person you were just talking to. In other news, if that person is so attractive and perfect, why are they single and trying to hook up in a fetish chat room? If it smells like a fish, and swims like a fish, chances are that he is a psycho who will stalk you for years to come.
Please take these few (and not terribly difficult) ideas to heart. I know “it’s just a chat room”, but many people feel inadequate when they are sloughed off, ignored, talked down to, or just plain insulted by rude behavior, self-entitled “Doms”, and people yelling at them to “HAVE A GOOD DAY”.
You know what they say, if you can’t type something nice, the Agency will find you and break your typing hand. Ambidextrous? Sucks to be you! Now, I have a huge shipment of slightly less than legal “gemstones” coming on board with my new (and slightly frazzled in the brain pan) mechanic, Joe. He keeps making eyes at me. I may have to take him to the Captain’s cabin and see if my booty shivers his timbers. Excuse the pirate pun, but I’ve been aloft on my own for FAR too long. Until next time, sparrows and swallows.
TTFN, ta ta for now!
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